We just need to face it. Life is going to at some point throw you curve balls, whether you are prepared for them or not. I still cringe at the thought of not always having rainbows and butterflies but I think the sooner we grasp this the sooner we can excel. I know that I love when things are going right, baby daddy is acting right, my bills are paid, my hair is in a good mood and my daughter is taking her nap right on schedule. But what do we really learn from these perfect situations? In school, isn’t it the new topics we know nothing about that give us the knowledge we need to pass the test? Math was PAINFUL for me in school, but I knew I needed to push through the classes to advance to the next grade.
I was recently watching a sermon from Pastor Micahn Carter and he made such a great point; in the natural world, although it hurts to feel pain, it is necessary to feel pain to know that there is a problem. For example, when we get sick or have an infection it is the sole ability to feel pain and discomfort that allows us to know that something is wrong. Maybe we need to treat our life circumstances with the same sensitivity. Pain and hurtful situations are not from God, but God will use them to grow you and mature you. Look at pain as an indicator of future elevation.
I tend to fight the pain or pretend it isn’t there, which in turn leaves me with greater hurt and a bigger emotional mess to clean. Or when life seems to be crumbling down on me in what feels like every single aspect, finances, career choices, motherhood, I like to throw pity parties and cry myself into oblivion. Well, not today devil! I think we need to make a new pact with pain. Pain does not control your perspective, it prospers it.
I read such a freeing word last week and I want to share it with you. I believe every person, not just single moms, needs to take in this beautiful scripture. Isaiah 55:10-11 reads: As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it. I LOVE THAT. Like for real.
The Lord is telling us that just like the rain comes and waters the dirt so that there may be life, flowers, trees, His word too will come and give life to you. What he has set upon your life WILL BE. The rain in your life allows for a season of sowing, a season of reflection and learning. But my beautiful sister, after the rain comes the rainbows. After the rain, we can reap. What the enemy is intending for your destruction, God is using for your purpose.
Single mommas, my prayer for you today is that you learn to embrace the pain and rain of your situation. Learn that this isn’t the end. Rain is necessary for flowers to flourish. God will not leave you or forsake you and He is using the hurt you feel to train you up for something greater. I truly believe this. Jeremiah 29:11 says that His plans for you are to prosper you and give you a hope and a future. Be strong in knowing just that.